Sometimes, we work so hard to achieve something. We are determined, we work tirelessly, we put every effort to attain our goal. Then, we fall short. It's at this critical moment, that we either jump on the path to succeed, or we seal our failure. It all comes down to one thing: blame.
People resort to blaming when overcoming an obstacle gets too difficult. It’s a defense mechanism—I mean; why wouldn’t we want to take the heat off ourselves? Nobody likes being seen as weak—or worse yet, a failure.
But it’s this defense mechanism that kicks us completely off track of achieving our goals.
Taking responsibility for your failures and foibles takes a lot of guts, but more importantly, it also takes trust. Trust that this pain will lead to victory. Trust in the process. Trust that, even though there is nothing signaling that you will succeed, no ladder leading you to the promised land, you should keep on fighting and knowing that these failures will eventually lead to victories.
Next time you fall short of a goal, don't blame a lack of resources. Don't blame your upbringing, your lack of skill, the fact that there are more qualified people than you.
Stop blaming externally, and look to blame yourself and strive to pinpoint where you can improve to guarantee success on the next attempt.